21 and with nothing to lose. My year abroad ” book of revelations”. 

 

It was a:

– delightful, rich experience.

Only of course when I got rid of two partners of mine. Mr overthinking and Mr Fear. 

I’ve learnt that we make our paths far more difficult than what they need to be. 

Myself, yourself, your mother ( mine in particular) , your neighbour have fears,  in fact, all of us have fears. Some purely based on assumptions, some fed by past experiences. Just the thought of what ” could happen”  throws us unbalanced from side to side. Leading us to a falafel of sleepless nights. However a fear, a fear needs to be fed in order to become a reality. So, don’t feed it, let it starve and vanish away. 

• Adjust yourself. Your stance. Look forward. Confident. 

You’re in total control of your emotions. That’s right.

–  Knowing  that you are in control of your emotions , saves you from a lot of heartache and self doubt. Don’t let everything and everyone stress you. #itsnothatdeep 

   After my séjour en France ( Paris) I learnt a lot of lessons  about people and  most importantly about myself. I remember being on the aeroplane and reading an article on self motivation, that started with this quote:

Because you will die, you must live now, this moment, this life. 

I immediately thought ” great, death is coming and I’m in a freacking aeroplane “! And of course it is, but that’s not what the author wanted me to think. So I said “6 months of my year abroad flew by in such a beautiful city and I didn’t really maximise them as much as I should have done. ”

*thinks* “-Okay girl this is going to be over soon, and if you don’t relax, you will most likely regret missing out on the fun of it all.” 

So I took the decision to 1- fully embrace everything with passion 100% of the time in  every moment possible. 2- To live in the “now” present moment and 3- to resist projecting into the future, or lamenting past mistakes

I really embraced every country and city I visited with my arms wide open, a huge grin on my face, a mind open to the unknown and of course a heart filled with a whole load positive stuff . 

– feel the power of now Psalms: 37:4 ” Delight thyself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart” – delight in the Lord, in goodness, kindness, compassion, love and see what happens 😉

In South America I worked and made friends with people from all walks of life, I learnt that : life is indeed full of delightful pleasures, most them are filled by making other people’s life better. No matter who we are, or where we come from, we all have our own journey. You, right now, can be sitting next to someone that has had a traumatic experience last night, but we don’t know that. All we know is that you smiling to that person right now could make their day. Perspective, something I really really experienced this year.

 To look at someone and taking into account that they have had  their own traumas and life stories , and that if we walked a mile on their shoes we wouldn’t stand a chance to their bravery. So be kind to everyone you meet, specially  the ones that you don’t like. There’s probably something troubling them that makes them act in “that way”. 

I’ve achieved greater compassion and understanding. 

Travelling is rewarding for many reasons. In particular when you go as far as the other side of the world. It wasn’t always easy, but I’ve learnt that every challenge we take on has the power to knock us to our knees, the important thing is to handle it fearlessly. I have built layers of strength as I trekked my way around the world , this strength came from adversity. The same adversity  that also built courage, discipline and determination.I’ve also inherited strength from all those who came before me, my parents, grandparents, my ancestors etc without them none of this could have been possible,

” I go forth alone and stand as ten thousands” ( Maya Angelou) 

   it is a blessing to be able to survive/ overcome challenges. Appreciate them all, they form you as the proud human being you’re becoming. 

  In the world of work:    Dream big – very big. Work hard- very hard.

Challenge yourself to pursue excellence in every level. To be more extraordinary. To use every moment to fill yourself up. 

Remain open to evolving. 

There’s a considerable amount of research showing that those willing to stretch boundaries of their current skill set are much more likely to be successful than those who believe they have a fixed skill set that locks them into specific roles. It’s called growth mindset. If you want to improve your leadership skills, take on leadership roles. Simple. Give yourself the permission to do so.  It of course takes persistence, consistency, drive and hard work but it’s not impossible. 

Knowing that you can question the rules is terrifically empowering, it is a reminder that the traditional path of only one option available to you is broader than you think. Uni, work experience, internships, gap year, volunteering etc there are many paths you can take on to achieve the same destination. It may take longer or less time but as long as you get there nothing should be an obstacle. 

•Also no need to walk on the footsteps of those before you, if you’re willing to break and challenge assumptions nothing should stop you. I believe vicious cycles can be broken. 

Over time, I’ve become increasingly aware that the world is divided into people who wait for others to give them permission to do the things they want to do and people who grant themselves permission.

 Some are self motivated others need a reason or an outside push. These days I don’t wait for people or invitations at all, I take it upon myself to make things happen, I’m no longer afraid to make the first move in whatever the situation, it’s scary and it takes courage.  It is something that should be more encouraged in my opinion. 
The opportunities are there for anyone willing to pick them up, I worked in the centre of Paris as an office manager, without any background in this specific field. It turned out to be an amazing setting to learn about business and a wide range of industries. That has now inspired me to create my own. 

Out of necessity and curiosity I learnt that, one of the most important ways to upgrade from one field to another is to figure out how your skills can be translated into different settings. Job functions may have varied names but can also be remarkably similar. 

I’ve done this again and again, constantly reframing my skills to create new opportunities. In Mexico I wanted a job in marketing and strategy and again no specific background in this field. Adaptation, that’s it. 

There is really no recipe, no magic potion. All of this I learnt because  I decided to open my eyes, to wake up and live a reality outside of my comfort zone. I encourage you to the same and awaken too. 

Love from me to you,

Carmenita 

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